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    Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    Post  mudra on Sat May 14, 2016 2:29 pm

    Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btBw70HAys4


    Academic-turned-cop and best-selling author George Doc Thompson describes how tactical language allows leaders to achieve their goals. Daniel Ames, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics, confirms that managing conflict is a critical predictor of leadership success and shows how what works in the streets converges with recent findings in social science. The workshop was part of the Program on Social Intelligences Science Meets Practice series, which pairs hands-on leadership training with breaking insights in psychology research.

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    Re: Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    Post  Pris on Sun May 15, 2016 4:30 pm

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    I think this video is worth watching and feel there is a lot of helpful information that everyone can use, BUT (LOL Naughty) there were also quite a few points that didn't sit well with me.  It's because they didn't sit well that I think this video is worth watching.  Recognizing coercive tactics that may be used against you and anyone else is very helpful (especially with regard to personal sovereignty).

    One thing's for certain, I am NOT fond of using the word '...but' and I'm not thrilled when people try using that tactic on me.

    It's one thing to use many of the techniques shared in this video to represent yourself.  When you represent someone else whose morals and ethics match yours (good or bad), great.  BUT what if they have lied to you and you didn't know it?  What if they have a hidden, negative agenda and they are taking advantage of your desire to help others?  That's when things can get ugly.  You think you are helping when in fact you are harming.  For example, just the idea of these techniques being used for purposes of imposing authority over others -- law enforcement... rather creeps me out.

    You can imagine what would happen when both sides take the 'star' position...  Whistle

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    Re: Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    Post  Pris on Mon May 16, 2016 4:21 am

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    You can imagine what would happen when both sides take the 'star' position...  Whistle

    To take this a bit further, wasn't the illustrative use of the star and the infinity sign quite clever?
    We're all supposed to believe that everything is equitable when it is not.



    The pretense was to appear to be cooperative,
    to negotiate fairly with regard to both sides when in fact the goal was
    to ultimately gain submission, compliance, surrender...  

    This topic goes way beyond how to deal with someone who may be 'drunk and disorderly'.

    This is about questioning imposed authority wielded by the few over the many.




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    Re: Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    Post  mudra on Mon May 16, 2016 5:12 am

    Pris wrote:.
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    I think this video is worth watching and feel there is a lot of helpful information that everyone can use, BUT (LOL Naughty) there were also quite a few points that didn't sit well with me.  It's because they didn't sit well that I think this video is worth watching.  Recognizing coercive tactics that may be used against you and anyone else is very helpful (especially with regard to personal sovereignty).

    One thing's for certain, I am NOT fond of using the word '...but' and I'm not thrilled when people try using that tactic on me.

    It's one thing to use many of the techniques shared in this video to represent yourself.  When you represent someone else whose morals and ethics match yours (good or bad), great.  BUT what if they have lied to you and you didn't know it?  What if they have a hidden, negative agenda and they are taking advantage of your desire to help others?  That's when things can get ugly.  You think you are helping when in fact you are harming.  For example, just the idea of these techniques being used for purposes of imposing authority over others -- law enforcement... rather creeps me out.

    You can imagine what would happen when both sides take the 'star' position...  Whistle

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    Indeed Pris I understand you,

    People are like books . Some lure you with their cover while other surprise you with their content.

    It is quite true people may possibly use it as a mere technique to submit others to their will.

    But, we are able to use it ourselves from hopefully the very best of our nature and intention, practice it as an Art
    until we master it.

    The interesting thing to me is the work it takes to refine our communication skills that they may bring peace around and even ... fun .
    Aikido style I like that.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZ5YKBqtWCo


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    Re: Verbal Judo: Diffusing Conflict Through Conversation

    Post  Pris on Mon May 16, 2016 5:30 am

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    Agreed, mudra!  flower

    HAHAHA!!  Kitteh takes down doggie 'kitteh style'!  I also noticed the brilliant use of the 'machine gun' technique! Insanely Happy



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